God’s Unconditional Love

When asked who my favourite child is, I often respond jokingly with “my favourite child depends on the day”. It was a truthful statement as some days the kids are not my favourite and I am sure that some days I am not their favourite person in the world either. I learned that my love was conditional and differed based on their behaviour. I wondered if this is how I viewed God’s love for me. That somehow God’s love towards me would change based on my own works, yet I know this is not true. In Romans 5:8 it says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us”.  Praise God His love for us is not conditional on our works as we are sinful human beings. There is nothing we can do to earn God’s love, yet God chose to love us unconditionally. 

This past year God has given me a greater understanding of His fatherly love through serving at Kingston-Galloway. It has been a joy and blessing to watch the kids and youth grow up, but it has also been challenging and heartbreaking walking through various seasons of change alongside them. We strive to make our programs a safe space for kids to be kids in which they are comfortable being themselves. Yet our kids struggle with having a dual identity as they often act completely different outside of our programs. There is immense societal pressure amongst the kids in the community to keep a tough exterior in order to protect themselves. There seems to be a common fear that if you show any weakness or vulnerability you will be bullied or taken advantage of. 

Many of our older kids are at a crossroads in which they must decide which path they want to take as it is impossible to live two completely different lives. They can choose the easier path which succumbs to the negative influence of their peers around them, or perhaps they will choose the narrow path.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”- Matthew 7:13-14.

Yet choosing to follow Jesus will be difficult as they will have to resist temptation and stand up for what they believe in by being set apart from the world. 

Last year our children learned about the fruits of the spirit and we encouraged the kids to show love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. The kids often found it difficult to understand why they should show love to those who have wronged them. They said “If someone hits me, I will get my get backs (revenge)”. I tried to explain that Jesus teaches us to not seek revenge and instead love our enemies. “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven”- Matt 5:44-45. During the summer, I had to practice what I preached. 

This past summer I was involved in an unprovoked TTC incident in which racial slurs and physical threats were directed at me for no justifiable reason. I prayed that God would give me the wisdom to know what to do to keep the rest of the campers safe in this high-intensity situation. As we debriefed the kids about the situation they were shaken, not out of fear but out of a desire for revenge. This incident did not phase them as it was nothing they haven’t seen before. What surprised them more was how calm I was not to fight back with them despite all that they said and did to me. They could not understand why I did not fight back. But I knew that any retaliation to defend my honour, pride and dignity as an Asian person and human being would have only escalated the problem. It would be selfish to do so as I would have only put everyone else at risk for a moment of the personal satisfaction of getting revenge. It was not worth it.  Although this incident would have justified a physical response according to the kids. I chose to respond to anger with gentleness and self-control. I chose to approach a chaotic situation with peace and patience through the power of the Holy Spirit. My response stuck with two of the individuals on the bus who recognized what they did was wrong. 

As difficult as this TTC incident was, it opened my eyes to see the type of situations the kids deal with on a daily basis and how difficult it is to choose to follow Jesus. I was upset that the kids had to hear their hateful language but I was thankful that the kids were able to witness firsthand the power of the Holy Spirit as I would not have been able to handle this on my own strength. The kids were able to see a different way to respond to hatred which was so countercultural to what they knew. This summer I earned some respect as the kids saw that I practiced what I preached in a real What Would You Do scenario. 

I am not a parent, but I have had a glimpse of what that may look like through loving the kids at KG. I want what’s best for them, yet I know that I can’t shelter them from the world and they must make decisions on their own. I can guide and direct them to the path which will bring them light and life, but they must choose to follow Jesus on their own. Some of our children have started getting in trouble in which they are disobeying their guardians, breaking rules and hanging out with negative influences. It is a difficult situation as the guardians want what is best for their children. Yet the kids often see consequences as an overreaction as they do not fully understand the potential repercussions of their actions. It is difficult for children to understand the heart of a mother/father/guardian as they feel trapped and restricted by rules. Yet rules are meant to protect and preserve morality not to be used to oppress or exploit others. In fact, God’s commandments were to ultimately protect the relationships between people and between the creator and His creation. Hopefully one day our children will come to understand that upholding rules is an act of love, as it would not be truly loving if everything was permissible.  

As I witness the path of life some of my children are choosing to take, it breaks my heart as I know the likely repercussions of their decisions. Due to the nature of our community some of these decisions may have long term impacts on their life, yet how can you fully comprehend the gravity of the situation as a child? I am sure that it hurts God’s heart when we choose to disobey Him and make decisions that will lead us to harm. Yet God would not be very loving if He controlled our lives and made every decision for us as we would no longer have freewill. God is Sovereign and He knows what decisions we will make but he cannot make them for us.

As I work with the children at KG I have a small glimpse of God’s unconditional love as a father. Sometimes I wish I could shelter the kids from the pain, suffering and evil of the world, yet this is not possible. Sometimes I also wish that the children would have a full understanding of the consequences of their decisions, yet this is also not possible. The only thing we can do is plant the truth of the Gospel and show and share the love of Jesus with the limited time we are given with them. Some of our children and youth have come and gone, yet even though they have gone astray they will always be welcomed back with arms open wide. In the same sentiment we also know that even when we sin, make mistakes and go astray we can always turn back to God whose arms are open wide ready to welcome us back home. 

We pray that our children, youth and families will experience the love of God personally. May they know that they are fully known and fully loved by God. We pray that one day they will accept the greatest gift of all, Jesus, as their Lord and Saviour. 

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GUIDING YOUNG HEARTS — CULTIVATING PATIENCE IN MINISTRY

As I delve into the third month of ministry, the path has become a profound tapestry of growth, patience, and unwavering faith. Patience, a virtue profoundly echoed in the Bible, now takes center stage in the intricate dance of serving in the Lord's vineyard. In this chapter of "Guiding Young Hearts,” I journey through self-discovery, love, and compassion inspired by God's Grace. The pages unfold with the wisdom I gained in the trenches of ministry.

Biblical Foundation for Patience

In the echoes of James 5:7, "Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord," I find solace and guidance. The parallel to a farmer awaiting the precious fruit of the earth resonates deeply. Patience, akin to waiting for the early and late rains, becomes not just a virtue but a posture—one that nurtures the seeds of change in the lives of children like Jesse and John.

“Parenting Ourselves” in Ministry

Reflecting on the quote, "Parenting is more about parenting ourselves than really parenting our kids," from the book "The Whole-Brain Child" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, I draw parallels to ministry. As ministers, we must continually parent and nurture our own spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being, recognizing that personal growth is intertwined with effective ministry. It’s a reminder that parenting extends beyond the children. 

In ministry, the transformative concept of "parenting ourselves" beckons us to let God be the guiding Parent of our souls. In the whirlwind of challenges and triumphs, it's about surrendering our fears, doubts, and insecurities to the divine wisdom of a Heavenly Father who understands the depths of our hearts. Allowing God to parent us in ministry means finding solace in His unwavering love, seeking His guidance in moments of uncertainty, and embracing His comforting presence in times of exhaustion. It's a continuous process of self-discovery, where God nurtures our spiritual and emotional well-being, shaping us into compassionate, patient, and resilient ministers of His grace. As we yield to God's parenting, we discover a profound source of strength that sustains us through the highs and lows of serving others in His name.

God's View of His Children

Stepping into Matthew 19:14, where Jesus beckons, "Let the little children come to me," I find reassurance in God's enduring love and patience for His children. As Jesse and John navigate their relationships and challenging behaviours, this divine perspective becomes the compass guiding my interactions. Patience becomes not just a virtue but a reflection of God's love for them.

Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these. —Matthew 19:14 (NIV)

The Growth Process in Ministry

The ministry journey unfolds like the growth of a seed—a transformative journey into a flourishing plant. Galatians 6:9 becomes a whisper in the wind, encouraging me not to grow weary in doing good. This verse serves as a reminder that patience in ministry is rewarded, and the growth process unfolds in God's perfect timing. Jesse and John, much like delicate plants, respond to patient nurturing. It's witnessing the small victories—the moments when they choose healthier ways to cope and communicate—that reaffirms the Divine timing of growth.

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." —Galatians 6:9

Flemingdon Park Children

Cultivating Patience with Jesse and John

In the intimate dance with Jesse and John, patience becomes more than a virtue; it's a daily practice. The echoes of their tumultuous past often resurface in emotional outbursts, challenging my ability to remain patient. Yet, it is precisely in these moments that the transformative power of patience is most evident. It's the consistent, patient response that becomes a balm to their wounded hearts, allowing the Holy Spirit to work its magic.

Patience, an essential virtue, allows us to trust in God's plan, recognizing that the growth process is ongoing and purposeful. Just as parents must first nurture themselves to effectively parent their children, we, as ministers, must cultivate patience within ourselves to faithfully serve God's people. In the tapestry of ministry, may we find strength and inspiration in the words of Scripture, fostering a patient and enduring spirit.

Final Thoughts

As I reflect on the past three months, the journey of cultivating patience in ministry with Jesse and John becomes a testimony to God's grace. The intricate threads of patience are woven into the fabric of their transformation, reminding me that this journey is not just about the children but about the continual shaping of my own heart in the image of God's enduring love. It's a personal narrative of growth, love, and compassion inspired by Jesus’ teachings, which reminds us to anchor ourselves in the timeless wisdom of the Bible. In this tapestry, the ministry's heartbeat resonates with the divine rhythm of patience—a melody that guides young hearts toward a deeper understanding of God's grace.

My hope and prayer are that Jesse and John are enveloped in the comforting embrace of God's love. May Jesus' transformative touch illuminate their challenging journey, filling their hearts with patience and understanding. Grant them the strength to navigate the obstacles ahead, and may the radiant light of Jesus' love shine profoundly in their lives. I ask for blessings upon those who extend care and support to them, that every interaction may be imbued with Jesus' wisdom and compassion. Placing Jesse and John in God's merciful hands, I trust in His divine love, believing in its power to bring forth healing and transformation. Amen.

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TRANSFORMING HEARTS—THE STORY OF JESSIE AND JOHN (Part 1)

Background: A Fragile Start

Jessie and John are children living in the Flemingdon Park community. They sometimes navigate through tough circumstances, influenced by challenging conditions and surrounded by less favorable role models. They encounter difficulties in a learning and living environment that presents its own set of challenges. 

Prior to our involvement, and occasionally still, they articulate their struggles through expressions that can be hurtful, with instances, especially in John's case, even extending to physical actions. This dynamic has created a complex environment not only for them but also for those in their proximity.

God's Timing

The turning point for Jessie and John came after a heartfelt conversation. My colleague, Lincoln, and I recognized that routine guidance wasn't enough; they needed our understanding, compassion, and a connection to their pain. It was during this crucial encounter that God's divine timing became evident.

The Work of the Holy Spirit

Following that conversation, we made the conscious decision to pull Jessie and John, along with other kids, aside whenever their emotions seemed to spiral. We wanted to give them the attention and understanding they deserved. In these moments, we witnessed the transformative power of the Holy Spirit at work.

Signs of Transformation

Over time, we noticed a significant change in Jessie and John. They became more receptive to our conversations and, most importantly, more open to understanding and managing their emotions. Previously, they would retaliate when provoked by their peers. Now, they are learning healthier ways to cope and communicate.

The Significance of this Story—Reflecting God's Love

Patience is a transformative process, an essential thread woven into the fabric of God's boundless love. This story reflects the boundless love and understanding that Jesus exhibited during His ministry. Just as Jesus embraced the marginalized and hurting, we, too, extended our love and care to the children. Furthermore, this story reflects the profound significance of patience, illustrating how it aligns with God's enduring love and guides young hearts, much like Jessie and John, toward a transformative journey of healing and growth.

TCM's Identity—Transforming Lives through God's Power

This story embodies the core identity of TCM. It’s not just an organization; it's a vessel for God's transformational power. It reaffirms our mission to transform the lives of children and their families through the love and grace of Christ. Jessie and John's journey illustrates that we are not just shaping young minds; we are nurturing souls and paving the path to Christ for those who need it most.

Matthew 19:14 (NIV) reminds us: "Jesus said, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.’"

In the transformation of Jessie and John, we see the manifestation of this biblical truth. Their story reaffirms our commitment to guide children toward Christ, no matter their past or challenges, reflecting the love and understanding that Jesus embodies.

(Continue in Part 2)

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My Journey with TCM

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?”

— Micah 6:8

My first real contact with TCM was back in 2015. At the time, I was working for a government-funded organization as a social worker where sharing my faith in the context of work was not permitted. I wanted to be able to support an organization that put faith into action with families that were affected by poverty where TCM came to mind. To my surprise, I was contacted shortly after and invited out for a coffee. This really left an impression on me, where for the first time, I felt that an organization wanted to take the time to get to know me and build a relationship with me that was beyond a financial transaction. Little did I know that my adventure with TCM was just beginning. 

A few years later, I felt called to join the staff with TCM. As I began making various plans for major adjustments to my regular life, a random member of the church I was attending at the time approached me. Without knowing anything about my life, she felt that God had impressed on her heart to give me a short message to not proceed with whatever I was about to do. Several months later, TCM went through some very significant challenges that I was spared of experiencing. In my care and desire around how to help TCM move forward from this, I was asked to join the board. While on the board, I learned a lot about oversight, making high-level decisions, and the day-to-day operations of TCM and how it was functioning as a whole. Looking back, I saw that God was calling me to become more involved with TCM, but perhaps in a capacity different than what I had originally thought. 

Cho participated in SpikeBack Volleyball Fundraiser in 2015

Cho participated in Run For TCM 2022 as a Board member

After a few years had passed, I began to encounter some unexpected difficulties at work. These difficulties amounted to compounding struggles that continued for months without any resolution. About a year later, I made the hard decision to leave a job of 12 years that I cared deeply about and had grown to love. Since then, TCM has always been at the top of my mind when it came to getting more involved.

As more conversations took place both with TCM staff and friends in my personal life, I began to realize God’s calling for me to join TCM as staff this time around. Practically speaking, many of the skills and experiences I held as a social worker were directly transferable to the position that TCM was offering. Furthermore, the vision of TCM, and most importantly, the gospel-centred approach towards caring for children and their families affected by poverty in word and deed were consistent with what God had always impressed on my heart. 

In my role as the Partner Relations Coordinator, I am excited to be part of God’s transformational work in the city of Toronto. My hope for you reading this is that you would journey alongside TCM, whether in prayer, giving financially, and/or volunteering and participate in God’s transformational work in the lives of children and their families, and in return, experience God’s transformational work in your own life. 

Outreach Worker Perspective: Journey in the Process

After completing my first full year of KIC, EPIC, and Sonshine Day Camp, I look back with overflowing gratitude. Before onboarding the TCM team, I wasn’t sure how everything would pan out. Jesse Ketchum was a new site, I was a new staff member, I would be working with an entirely new team, and doing my first ministry job. However, in all of this, I have seen how God works in the journey.

When we first started programs in 2022, we ranged from two to eight kids. On top of that, not many of our kids came from Christian homes. Therefore, when teaching the Bible, it was a struggle to keep their attention. I would often sit in our weekly staff gatherings and hear about how many more kids other sites had and hear about all the incredible God-centred conversations they would have and wonder if we would ever get there. Summer Camp then came around and our numbers began to go up. We were averaging 12-17 kids a week and teaching Bible became easier. We also found out that our kids love worship. It got to a point where they would ask to play worship songs during their free time so that they could dance. On top of that, I also was growing. I better understood the role of an outreach worker and what it meant to build relationships with families and the community. In those moments, I was already so thankful for the work God was doing.

Then Sonshine Day Camp came back around in 2023. This time, we had a full staffing team of six people and averaged 25-34 kids a week with a running waitlist. To say that I was surprised was an understatement. We went from having an attendance of eight kids wondering if we would ever have more, to having a list so long that we had to make a wait list. Beyond the numbers, we were standing by  TCM’s mission statement by targeting families who were either new to Canada or expressed a need for free programming. 

In all of this, I learned that God works in the journey. Oftentimes, I want things immediately and become disheartened when it doesn’t happen. An example of this was when we opened programs and we didn’t have upwards of 15 kids right away. When the kids were not that interested in our Bible lessons, I felt hopeless. When it felt like we were working overtime to promote our programs to the community and not get a response, it was discouraging. But what I didn’t realize at the time was that God doesn't always answer prayers with immediate results. Sometimes, we have to run the course to see the fruit of our labour; and sometimes, running the course is hard. There will be days when we don’t feel like running, or days when all the work we do seems pointless. I’ve realized that this testimony isn’t about the number of attendees but about God’s faithfulness. Specifically, it’s in these “journeys” that He teaches and refines us. As we wait on Him and wonder what He’s doing, He continues to show us where we need to grow. I’ve learned to enjoy these “journey” seasons because I now know that He is preparing something for us that is much greater than we can ever think, ask, or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Therefore, I believe that we are called to fix our eyes on the One who has called us to serve His people and allow Him to strengthen us in our “down and out” moments, so we can see the promise that is to come. 

“Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep His promise.”

— Hebrews 10:23